DEAR DEIDRE: IāVE always been seen as a āgood girlā ā I studied hard, have a good job and married Mr Perfect.
Until I met a proper bad boy through work, I had never put a foot wrong.
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Weāve had the most adventurous and passionate sex Iāve ever experienced
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Heās opened up a side to me that I didnāt know existed.
Now I am torn between running a mile and throwing it all in for him.
Iām 31 and my husband is 34. Heās so lovely, kind and genuine but I have to admit there is no spontaneity.
Weāve been trying for a baby for three years and despite two rounds of IVF havenāt had any joy as yet.
He doesnāt want to talk about it. He was supportive to begin with but after our second IVF round failed, he said we need to enjoy life for a while and stop focusing on becoming parents.
I have been trying to embrace other projects and took on a promotion at work, managing my companyās big events.
Iāve loved the challenge and meeting all the new suppliers. I love the new team I work with. Iāve never been much of a drinker but over the past few months have got stuck in and had some pretty wild nights.
My new married boss always buys us all dinner and drinks.
Iāve heard heās had a number of affairs, but still I couldnāt resist him.
One night as we both got the lift up to our hotel rooms, he leaned over and whispered in my ear that he couldnāt stop thinking about me.
I was so shocked at my response. My whole body melted and by the time the lift stopped we were wrapped around each other.
Since then weāve had the most adventurous and passionate sex Iāve ever experienced.
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Now I canāt stop thinking about having sex with him again. Heās 46 and in really good shape.
I know my husband doesnāt deserve this but I really donāt know if I can go back to boring marital sex ever again.
DEIDRE SAYS:Ā Stop this affair now before you destroy your marriage and career.
Youāve thrown yourself into work to distract yourself from the fertility challenges you are living through.
And no doubt your affair is part of this escapism.
Turn your attention to your marriage and instead of running away from your fertility disappointments, you need to work through this challenge and all the options together.
Please contact the Fertility Network UK (0800 008 7464, fertilitynetworkuk.org) who can support you.