OMG this dude was certainly in for a RUDE shock when he had the balls to say he deserved just as much credit as his wife did for making their baby.
Posting on Reddit he shared, “AITA (Am I the arsehole) for telling my wife WE are making our daughter, not her?”
He asked, “Okay, so my wife and I are expecting our first child. She is 7 months along and we got an ultrasound yesterday to check on the progress (my wife’s medical issues caused the OBGYN to be extra cautious).
He added, “During the appointment, the tech was pointing out our daughter’s different body parts, telling us where the legs and feet are. It was the first time we didn’t really need the help, because we could see our baby looking like a real baby.
My wife started crying, and I was comforting her, when she said the words. “I can’t believe I’m making a human being.”
“I kept comforting her, but I waited a few minutes and, once the tech was gone, gently reminded her that we are both the parents, not just her. I also told her that saying she’s “making” the baby on her own is not accurate, since I provided half the genetic material.
He continued, “My wife was still emotional at this point, and she started crying again thinking I don’t appreciate what she’s putting her body through to be pregnant. Obviously this is false, especially since her pregnancy has been so tough that I’ve attended at least two doctors appointments every month. I show her with actions, not words, that I appreciate her.
“I just don’t think it’s fair to claim I haven’t contributed something to making our daughter. She is still upset the next day. So, AITA?”
Prepare to be slammed in 5…4…3…2…1
In the comments section, the poor dad-to-be was soon put back in his place and told he had basically done shit to deserve the credit.
“You aren’t making shit. All you did was shoot a load into her. She’s the one dealing with the body and hormonal changes. Get over yourself.”
“Her pregnancy has been so bad that ‘I’ve’ had to attend two appointments every month. Like seriously? Lose your I attitude. She’s the one going through all that. You’re just being a good husband as you should be.”
“You will be equal parents but pregnancy and developing a fetus is 100 percent a maternal responsibility, and you can only do so much to support her. You can’t be nauseous and throw up for her.
You can’t feel the backaches and foot pains for her. You don’t have to pee every 5 minutes or have your internal organs kicked from the inside. Empathy is really important in this phase of a relationship … she’s putting in way more that you could imagine.”
“Yeah he provided half the genetic material, but he’s not the one gestating the fetus. He won’t experience the weight gain, the hormonal changes, body changes, the birth etc. What he eats and does physically won’t affect the fetus the way it will for his wife.”
“It’s her body and hers alone that is the one growing and nurturing this child currently. Show some respect for her and the pregnancy process.”
“Not even half the material. He provided half of the recipe. She provided the other half of the recipe, and 100% of the ingredients, and is doing the baking.”
After receiving all the feedback, he realised he had done wrong and commented, “I’m an idiot. I don’t know what I was thinking. I’m gonna apologise and make it up to her however I can.”
Did your partner try to claim some credit for ‘making’ your children? Or did he know better?