What can I expect in the first trimester of pregnancy?

Telling people feels… hard. Because you have to watch their excitement, and then what if you have to break their heart in a few weeks???

We told our parents around week eight, after seeing the heartbeat in the dating scan. 

I told a few friends early on, but I waited until I was in my second trimester to tell work and my wider social circles. It felt right for me, but I hated it.

I hate secrets. I suck at them. Thankfully, I could easily hide my sickness, but having to turn up to work and pretend like something huge wasn’t happening to me, was really, really, really hard. I am the kind of person who deals with things by speaking
about them so for me, it’s probably been the hardest part. 

Reflecting on it, I keep thinking about the age-old saying: “You never know what someone is going through. Be kind. Always.” 

I needed that default kindness from others more than ever during my first trimester. 

4. Your uterus will start doing some very weird things.

My Google history is whack. 

I feel like everyone is familiar with what bloating feels like, and there’s a lot of that during pregnancy. 

But not long after I found out I was pregnant, around week four to five, I started to feel this odd ‘tugging’ feeling in my tummy. 

It wasn’t painful; it was just noticeable. Like a tiny little man was standing in my uterus and pulling at the walls. 

Apparently it’s just normal growing uterus stuff, but I was definitely not prepared for that.

Towards the end of my first trimester, I started to get round ligament pain which for me feels like growing pain, up and down the sides of my abdomen. There’s been a few days where I’ve had to take painkillers because it’s been so intense. 

Once again, weird. I was not expecting that. 

5. Every woman’s body is different and grows at different rates. Stop comparing.

I am a tall gal – 173cm tall to be exact. 

I was also very lean and fit when I fell pregnant. 

By the time I had reached 12 to 13 weeks, I barely looked pregnant. But I was obsessed with ‘looking’ pregnant, because women on the internet did.

I lost myself in TikTok hashtags like #8weekspregnant and #12weekspregnant and found myself getting worried because lots of those women had proper obvious bumps already. 

But as my doctor explained, I have a long torso and a baby therefore has a lot more room in my uterus before I have to start growing outwards.